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Stop Blaming God: It’s Not His Fault

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Have you ever caught yourself thinking — or maybe even saying out loud —

“Why did God give me this [disease, pain, hardship, grief, addiction]?”

“If God really loved me, He wouldn’t make me this way.”

“I can handle this. It’s really not that bad.”

If any of those sound familiar, you are not alone. And I want to tell you something that might sting a little before it sets you free: if you are blaming God for your addiction, your struggle, your craving — you are doing exactly what Satan wants you to do.

The good news is, God is not only bigger than Satans lies, He’s sovereign over ALL of your circumstances.

The Blame Game Is Older Than You Think

The blame game isn’t a modern problem. It’s literally the oldest story in the Bible.

Genesis 3. The garden. God gave Adam and Eve everything — with one boundary. And when the serpent showed up and they broke it, look at what happened. God asked Adam, “Did you eat from the tree I told you not to eat from?”

Adam’s response? “The woman you put here with me — she gave me some fruit from the tree, and I ate it.” (Genesis 3:12 NIV)

He didn’t just blame Eve. He blamed God. The woman YOU put here.

That same ancient pattern runs in us today. When life is a mess, when we feel enslaved to something we can’t shake, our first instinct is to look up and ask, “God — how could You let this happen to me?”

The Lie That Keeps You Trapped

Here’s what God’s Word actually says about where temptation comes from:

“When tempted, no one should say, ‘God is tempting me.’ For God cannot be tempted by evil, nor does he tempt anyone.” — James 1:13 NIV

God did not give you your addiction. Not the substance addiction. Not the approval addiction. Not the shopping or scrolling or food or work addiction. Not one of them.

And that quiet lie — “I can control it, it’s not that bad” — is one of the most dangerous of all, because it cuts off the only lifeline that actually works. Jesus said plainly in John 15:5, “Apart from me you can do nothing.” That’s not a criticism. That’s an invitation.

So Who Is Actually to Blame?

John 10:10 answers this better than I ever could:

“The thief comes only to steal and kill and destroy; I have come that they may have life, and have it to the full.”

There is a thief. There is a killer. There is a destroyer. And it is not God.

Ephesians 6:12 reminds us that our real battle isn’t against flesh and blood — it’s against spiritual forces of darkness. We have a real enemy, and when we blame God, we let that enemy off the hook entirely while pushing away the only One who has the power to set us free.

God Allows Hard Things — But He Doesn’t Waste Them

Here’s the part I want to be careful with, because I know some of you are carrying real pain — things that were done to you, not chosen by you.

God is not the author of your addiction or your trauma. But He is a Redeemer, and Romans 8:28 promises that “in all things God works for the good of those who love him.” Not that all things are good — but that God works in all of it.

I’ve seen this in the jail cells where I mentor women. God didn’t put those women there. But He showed up there anyway.

The Power You Have Access To Right Now

When you stop blaming God and run to Him, you get access to something no one else can offer: the Father who is completely for you (Romans 8:31), the Son who is actively interceding for you (Hebrews 7:25), and the Holy Spirit who counsels, guides, and gives you discernment in your weakest moments (John 14:26).

“My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.” — 2 Corinthians 12:9 NIV

And the verse I want you to write somewhere you’ll see it every single day:

“With man this is impossible, but not with God; all things are possible with God.” — Mark 10:27 NIV

One Practical Step for This Week

When a lie about God surfaces — and it will — ask yourself one question: Does this align with who God says He is in Scripture?

Then speak the truth out loud. Replace the lie with a verse. Faith comes from hearing (Romans 10:17), and there is something powerful about saying truth into the air in your own voice.

The battle is already won. You just have to stop fighting on the wrong side.

Stop blaming God. Start running to Him. He is not the source of your captivity — He is the only source of your freedom.

Want to go deeper? Listen to the full episode on the Addicted to God Podcast — available on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, and YouTube. Search “Addicted to God.” A new episode is published weekly.

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Be Bold and Brave

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This, is love.

I mentor a lot of women… A lot! Some days I am overwhelmed by the complexity and struggles that women face. From jail ministry, where women have committed unexplainable and despicable crimes. To women who are finding their way as they struggle hopelessly through heavy and challenging circumstances they are navigating.

Yesterday I met with a woman who is living in a messy marriage in the aftermath of her affair. Both parties contributing to the downward cycle after having experimented with polygamy, drugs and witchcraft.

Today, I will be meeting with two girls who are incarcerated. One of them is merely a child. I honestly don’t know what she’s incarcerated for, but she is being held in the mental health unit. As I speak with her, between her random rants, I wonder if she even has the ability to comprehend the truth and revelation of the gospel of Jesus Christ.

The majority of the women I meet with are starving for truth and someone brave and bold enough to not only tell them, but explain why it’s truth. They’ve been to psychologists who prescribe medications for anxiety or read self-help books that promise that losing weight, exercise, healthy diet, meditation and mindfulness are the keys to happiness, but never point them to the true source of help and hope.

When I lament on this page about the brokenness of this world it is because I have a front row seat to it. It used to weigh me down, but now it invigorates me that God is using me – inadequate, incompetent, insignificant me – to be bold and brave enough to show them that Jesus loves them so much that he was willing to die for them.

If you’re struggling in a mess of your own (and who isn’t?) I urge you to pick up your Bible and read it today. I always start in the book of John for people who don’t know where to start. Jesus talks the most in the book of John so you get his teaching spoken word for word. It also tells you how to get to heaven, gives incredible examples that models how Jesus lived and you’ll find the life giving truth found in John 3. Everyone should memorize John 3:16.

Thanks for reading this long post. My heart is for all of us navigating the messy stuff of this life to be bold and brave enough to put our trust in Christ and Christ alone.

The Goodness of God’s Testing

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We can find God. He’s everywhere!

“For ever since the world was created, people have seen the earth and sky. Through everything God made, they can clearly see his invisible qualities—his eternal power and divine nature. So they have no excuse for not knowing God.”
‭‭Romans‬ ‭1‬:‭20‬ ‭NLT‬‬

Yet, Job wonders where he is. I love Job and his “humanness”. Who hasn’t wanted to find God to sit down and have a talk with him. We would ask questions like, “Why God…?”

Job also gives us the answer, “When he tests me, I will come out as pure gold.”

Hang in there. Keep the faith. Trust God even when you cannot understand what he is doing or why he is doing it. You will come through it as pure gold… refined, magnificent, invaluable, and shining brighter.